Mary H. (Heeney) Warner, age 77

of Quincy

Mary H. (Heeney) Warner, age 77

Mary H. (Heeney) Warner, age 77, of Quincy, Mass., formerly of Kittery, Maine, died peacefully, Monday, July 11, 2022, in the comfort of her home, surrounded by her loving husband, daughter and sister.

Mary was born in Portsmouth, N.H., to the late John B. and Inez (Sanborn) Heeney. Raised and educated in Kittery, Maine, she was a graduate of Traip Academy in Kittery, Class of 1963. She later attended Boston University. She raised her daughter, Dawn (Cole) Darling with Lester Cole in Rochester, N.H. For the past twenty-seven years, she has lived with her adoring husband and best friend, Matthew J. Warner, in Quincy, Mass.

Mary was always a trailblazer in her careers at Liberty Mutual, Kendall Insurance, McCracken Computer, Inc. and CCB Associates. For most of her career, she was a computer programmer/analyst working on Insurance Industry Software. After retiring, she worked as a consultant for several years.

Mary loved to knit and she enjoyed teaching others her beautiful craft as well. She enjoyed many girls weekends away at craft fairs and fiber festivals, taking classes, knitting and spending quality time with her girlfriends. She loved all things books and she was an amazing seamstress. She spent much of her free time volunteering at the Quincy Animal Shelter. Mary loved the ocean. It was her happy place. She was a great listener, she was compassionate, stoic and kind. If you were fortunate enough to meet Mary, she could quickly make you feel as if you were never a stranger. If you had the pleasure of a porch sit with Mary and Matt, it was something you would never forget and always look forward to doing again. Mary and Matt were fortunate to have traveled with family to places like the Grand Canyon, India, Italy and Sicily where they visited the municipality of Piriano where Matt’s grandparents were born.

In addition to her loving husband, Matthew, and devoted daughter, Dawn, Mary is survived by her beloved grandson, Kyle P. Darling and his partner Emily Leese, of Oregon; her dear sister, Ann L. Heeney, of New Market, Md., many nieces and nephews, a great niece and nephew, and the special souls like herself, that made up her extended family of friends and neighbors. Until next time, “Welcome to the Porch!”

A Celebration of Mary’s life will be held at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, donations in Mary’s memory may be made to the Quincy Animal Shelter, P.O. Box 690088, Quincy, MA 02269 or the Hospice of the South Shore, 30 Reservoir Park Drive, Rockland, MA 02370.


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  • Mary and Matt offered us their hospitality, while we were visiting the US to see our daughter-in-law, Debbie and our son Ben. When we walked in the door it was live and friendship and joy from then on. Mary and I walked the next day, to the local church. And there we sat and shared with gentle trust. It was unforgettable.

  • The news is heartbreaking, my goodbye done remotely. So many cherished memories, to many to count. You will live in my heart forever, dear friend. May you Rest In Peace. Don’t raise to much “hell” up there with Frank❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • Dear Mary, I am so very thankful for our 35 years of friendship. No one could ask for a better confidant, co-worker, travel companion or all around morale booster. You’ve always been there for me, and your generosity of spirit has brought joy to all those it touched. Your indomitable Yankee spirit will live on in legend and song, and of course in your dear Dawn.

    All our adventures are cherished memories, be they special (Squam Art Workshops, Harrisville Designs, four wheeling in a Prius) or simple ( fiber festivals, dinners with fellow friends, porch sitting). And there are no memories sweeter than those of you and Matt as a couple – a match made in heaven if there ever was one.

    Fairfarren my beloved friend and kindred spirit. You are with me always.

  • Matt~
    I was not ready for this. Mary was such a spirit, and sometimes a firecracker, that this is not sinking in yet. The memories made back in our school days are all joyful and crazy and I’m sure that is how I will always think of Mary. I was glad to meet up with her again at the 50th reunion and also enjoyed the visit at her grandmother’s cottage before the demotion. I found it very touching that she wanted to go there one more time and reminisce. You had a special relationship that is so rare. I think you are her jackpot, richness beyond compare. I’m glad you found each other and had so many fabulous years together. My deepest sympathy to you as well as to Ann, Dawn and Kyle.

  • Mary was truly one of a kind. I was so fortunate to meet her through our volunteer work at Quincy Animal Shelter and we became fast friends. Before I knew it, she was one of my closest friends, my confidant, my go-to for all things good and bad, my soundboard, my knitting buddy, and one of my absolutely favorite people to spend time with. Whether it was sitting on her porch chatting, running errands, going to the dog park, seeing theater (both respectable, like Les Miserables and Fun Home or silly and fun like Andy Cohen and Anderson Cooper,) shopping (Frugal Fannies!!) – she even came with me at the crack of dawn when my dog needed surgery in Boston – we had a blast together!
    She answered every call and text, regardless of the time of day or night. She always took my side, yet had the best advice when I needed guidance. She was truly an incredible friend and I’m so lucky to have had her in my life. I was not prepared for her passing and I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to fully accept it. It just doesn’t make sense that someone so full of life is just gone.
    She taught me so much, so she’ll always be a part of me. Plus, Matt and Dawn are part of my family because of her. But I miss talking/texting with her almost daily and I doubt that will ever pass.
    She was an incredible friend and I’ll always be grateful to have had her in my life, even when I’m deeply grieving her loss. 💔
    Matt, thank you for sharing her with me. I know I took up a lot of her time. ♥️